Marriage brings happiness and a planned event.
function. There are certain rules to we are
morally bound to follow. In villages there is no concept of Banquet Halls or
hiring catering agencies and event planners for organizing functions but these
all jobs are to be done by neighbors and relatives. The norms which are mostly
functional in villages are as follows:
- The guests are to be received and look after by family head who invited them.
- Night before main event, cooking activities starts. The neighbors have the responsibility of helping the cook and look after him like cleaning dishes, meat, rice etc.
- The neighbor has duty to provide and arrange beds or chair for the guests and for their stay. If there is shortage of place with host then every neighbor take few guests to their homes for night stay.
- Breakfast for the staying guests and the host house members is to be provided by neighbors if they affords.
- On the main event day, the cleaning, serving and looking after the guest is to be done by neighbors on the instructions of host. The caterer work is solely done by neighbors.
- The host duty in the entire event is supervision.
No matter how much simple the marriage
is, the greater celebrated by villagers. Everybody seems that they are
celebrating their own family function.
In Death Procession:
Death is certain and not a preplan thing.
It may occur any time. It doesn’t see your financial position or status. So village norms were set taking all these
factors. Some general norms are as follows:
- After a death announced in a family, the elders and younger rush to their house.
- First to show their sympathy and pray for dead one. Next :
- To inquire arrangements.
- Setting procession time after family discussion.
- Informing the nearby villages and the family relative of dead one.
- Digging up of grave is responsibility of nearby village men.
- Like marriages, guests look after is responsibility of neighbors.
- The all three days meal for guests and family members is to be financed & arranged by relatives.
In our
village, the special norm is that all people from village
to bring their breakfast & have it together with other neighbors. This
happens twice a year on Eid-ul-Fitar & Eid-ul-Azha known as Grand Breakfast.
These are some general norms which are
set by ours fore fathers according to our culture and still functional but
limited mostly to villages. Nowadays, some villages have made committees to
look after these matters and strictly try to implement their village norm so
they can live with happiness and in prosperous society. By implementing these
rules there is harmony and brotherhood live in villages which is specialty of
village.
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